Why is self-discipline such a big thing? And why aren’t we, naturally, persisting at the level required to be fulfilled by our own lives?
The answer is in the subconscious. It’s about trusting (or not trusting) that the work we need to put into our lives will pay off. Because let’s face it we’ve tried before and it just didn’t work out.
All the old subconscious self-doubt that has never been processed tells us to stop… Why bother? Who cares, anyway? Why would I put myself in that position again?!
But here’s the thing… we would do it all again if we knew without a doubt that it would pay off, right?
So, my advice is to start there. Care. Bother. If you go after what you want you will, at the very least, understand more about yourself. And at the most, you’ll begin to live a life that truly fulfills you. There’s a deep, personal (fulfilling?!) pay off either way.
As an adult, you might need to throw around words like “discipline” in order to get anything done, simply because all those old subconscious stories telling you to not get up again are fucking you over.
Because if you look at a toddler learning to walk, you see that motivation is a natural thing. They don’t beat themselves up when they fall over they just stand the fuck up again and get on with it… there’s no “discipline” involved in that.
If you look more closely at your own personal history, you’ll see that you’ve done, seen, achieved, felt, understood, loved, healed, been guided… so much more than your old subconscious baggage (read: self-doubt) is allowing you to see.
And in that deeper space of self-awareness – and dare I say, self-respect – you find that discipline isn’t an issue.
So, be more curious about yourself, and you’ll be more motivated to take one step and then another until you can walk, then run, then jump.
Because, quite frankly, self-doubt is bullshit :)