The elusive inner-peace! I’ve been studying Serenity from As a Man Thinketh over past 2 weeks for the Intuitive Lifestyle Membership. And as I’ve been processing my own journey I thought these 2 ideas might be useful for you too:
As James Allen says calmness of mind is a jewel of wisdom. It is the wise person that acts with calmness in the midst of a storm.
The image that always comes to mind here is being able to sit in the eye of the storm and not be swayed by the wild winds all around us. Sounds good, right?
When I first started this journey it was easier to be calm and centered. Mostly because I hadn’t yet seen all that I’ve now seen – all the stuff I’d repressed, and which kept success at bay.
Before I looked within more deeply I was totally fine! Then I looked…
… And I realized that my understanding of calmness was just not creating waves, not expanding, not evolving.
And the not expanding wasn’t really working for me because whilst my life seemed calm and I seemed calm, I just wasn’t all that happy.
I began to see that there’s a spiral upwards that we have to take through our old stuff…baggage…fear… IF we are going to become the person we see ourselves as on a higher level. The achiever, the soulful, playful, happy and wealthy person.
As soon as we say we want more form our lives, we have to allow what previously held us back form that ‘moreness’ to rise to the surface to be resolved. And through that we grow. Prior to this we are “calm” (fake-calm) because we’ve repressed it all. Not because we are truly gifted with wisdom and grace!
Don’t get me wrong, repression works and it has it’s place. It’s a coping mechanism. And it’s essential at certain times in life because it protects us.
But when it becomes habitual to block and not process what we’ve been through, done, felt, faced we also block achievement, and satisfaction in life on a much deeper level.
Literally because we can’t just block the stuff we don’t like, we block everything.
We see this once we choose to grow. And wisdom is a result of that growth. When we begin to move through our ‘stuff’ we do become much wiser than when we hold onto it. We develop, evolve, change, choose more… All of that equates to a broadened awareness and sense of hope.
What’s repressed is bound in something…
What holds us back from achieving our goals, our ideal lifestyle, our business success is NOT random and it’s not ‘unhealable’.
It’s just something that has been repressed because it was too hard to deal with at the time. And it might be time to deal with it now.
Calmness comes from patiently choosing to see things differently. Repression comes from panic/fear/pain.
The two things don’t sit together comfortably. In fact, they are opposing forces. But that only becomes known when you have to get to the other side in order to achieve something you want to create in your life.
The thing is, we have to patiently work at being calm by choosing to see ourselves as capable, lovable, hopeful and to develop a bit of faith along the way. Whilst what we’ve repressed tends to tell us that we are bad, unlovable, hopeless and that whatever we want will never work out…
What we’ve repressed tends to be the subconscious driving force in our lives. We create from the subconscious mind and that’s also the space we send what we repress to.
In my experience not being willing to go into this space is the number ONE thing that stops people for getting what they want in life. I’ve watched many clients give up because they weren’t willing to see their pain. Of course, we have to do this at a time that’s right. But we can also start NOW and just take a few steps into what’s there, without completely upsetting the balance of life.
And, quite frankly, any small step will be a step in the right direction. Because it can be followed by another small step and then another.